Character

The answer is yes. I am a good judge of character.

I give everyone a lot of grace at first meeting. I know we have all suffered differently and live around and from where we came from. Even after someone has shown me, I still have a lot of compassion.

But I have learned to trust my judgement when people show me who they are. Words and actions reveal a lot. Expressed opinions do also.

I’ve watched my husband be right about people from the first meeting. He pays attention. I’ve learned from him. People do show you who they are.

I grew up with a mother who could practically shape shift she was so good at deceiving people. She told stories that never happened, dropped her charming smile like a hot potato as soon as she turned her back.

How I managed to grow up so gullible, probably has some explanation, but for a chunk of my life I had very few savy people skills.

I now tend to err on the side of caution.

Once someone acts out, puts others down, behaves as if they are the only one who matters, treats anyone as less valuable or less important. Exhibits extreme negativity, or is deceptive. I get a little twitch. I know to proceed with caution.

I have no room for regular interaction with such people. I struggle enough with my situation here.

People’s energy affects things, People ruin their own day more often than not. Some people grew up in a whole era of negativity, duty, I don’t even know…

Mostly I am aware that life is too short to spend too much time with people who aren’t adding positivity to my world.

That is everyone’s choice. We all have complications that affect who is in our life, but my crusade to find joy, is helping me to be decerning in relationships. I’m still learning, but I’m going to say that yes, I’m getting good at this.