Author Archives: andreatancrati

Traffic. Yikes! Just the thought of it can bring up stress. We all have stories of how particularly bad traffic messed up our day. Rushing and traffic is a terrible combination. Commuter traffic, no one’s favorite. Here’s the thing, traffic is just another experience in life. It means whatever we make it mean. I’ll notContinue reading “On the Road…”

If I could go back in time, besides buying some good stocks, I would advise my younger self to keep making new friends. keep nurturing relationships and make bigger efforts to stay connected. In other words, reach out more. Friendship is important. It’s different for everyone, but whether its a few close friends or aContinue reading “Friends”

There’s a story about Abraham Lincolns first and second wives. His first wife lived in their house with a dirt floor. She was promised a real floor, but lived for years until she died, on dirt. His second wife took one look at the dirt floor and refused to move in until a real floorContinue reading “The Opposite of Settling”

Something I decided to practice is regularly listing things I’m grateful for. I do it before I open my eyes every morning then before I fall asleep every night. It doesn’t take any time and I don’t have to search for a pen and paper. To keep it simple, I just think of as manyContinue reading “Good Things”

Life is made of ups and downs as well as some straight sections, none of which last. I’m coming to the end of a five year down, with many fluctuating ups and downs in the middle. I can tell you it hasn’t been easy. Most of what made up this time could be best describedContinue reading “Ups and Downs”

When I first wrote my book ‘Peaceful Hearts’, I titled it ‘Wild Hearts’. It came from the idea that wild hearts can’t be broken, even if they feel that way. Someone later looked at my book and was very adamant that hearts can’t be broken. I’m pretty sure she was too young to have beenContinue reading “Peace regulation”

The good news is that we can always regulate and re regulate and re regulate again. The other good news is that we get better at it with practice. The bad news is that we will never stop becoming dis regulated. Life will always find ways to knock us out of balance. Maybe that’s partContinue reading “Good News”

Life is weird. After so many years trying to be one of those happy people (you know them from TV or Facebook), I came to understand that no one is happy one hundred percent of the time. Some people spend more time in a happy state, some people are really good at pretending to beContinue reading “Getting to the Fun Part”

When things aren’t going well, I’m tempted to get down on myself. I often go straight to negative self questioning. Here’s the thing, I’ve learned that actually, it’s not really helpful to blame, punish or beat myself up. Ever. I used to think it was a normal reaction to get mad at me, but whatContinue reading “A Call for Compassion”