Cheers to the Nos

How often do you say “no” to things that would interfere with your goals?

My most important goal is to keep my energy as, light and flowing as possible. This sounds esoteric and somewhat comical when I read it back but let me try to explain…

In order for me to show up and move forward in life, in order to be effective and loving, kind and responsible, respectful and confident, calm and regulated enough to be goal oriented, I know I need to take care of my own personal energy. I know this better than I know anything. I absolutely must take charge of this first.

Circumstances don”t determine who or how I want to show up as in my life. Ideal events come and go. Life is fun and then it’s not and then it is and then not. Whenever I let things effect me, usually not intentionally, but when I don’t put my hand up and say no, I lose my way.

Getting lost in emotional reactions to situations can and has sidelined me. I’m an artist, I’m unfortunately or fortunately an emotional rainbow. I feel deeply, I can’t help that, but I can and am constantly learning how to check myself. This is important.

Saying no has not been my favorite. I prefer yeses. Lately what I’m learning, is that I must say no in order to regulate at times. No to certain thoughts, or conversations. No to certain foods or activities. No to too much sitting, no to ruminating on subjects. No to prolonged involvement in any negativity. I say at times because if I’m feeling intuitive, these aren’t absolute nos, I can absorb some negativity, I can have a hard conversation, I can eat a donut, I just need to balance myself out. Just knowing I have some power to affect my own energy feels good to me.

There was a time when I thought it was the circumstances that I was supposed to change or fix. I thought I had to make the situation better, change something external in order to feel better. It does look like that, so no wonder, but what I’ve learned is that it comes down to me. I can have light upbeat energy no matter what is going on outside of myself. I can take an emotional hit and shake it off. I can balance and regulate. I’m not, it turns out, at the mercy of anything. This gives saying no a new twist. Energically, it makes good sense. Cheers to me saying ‘No’ more often.